One. Two. Three. Four. Five.   Who is counting? — I am counting. You are always counting. — You have to ask me to stop. You buried me the day after Valentine’s day. — You broke my heart. All is forgiven. — Nothing is forgotten. Why are you still so angry? […]

You used to be the moon and I used to be the sun. We stared at the earth so far away from us — closer to you — reality, mine so far away. How could you hide from me so suddenly? So easily? So stubbornly? When will you unhide from […]


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I thought of you again today. Sometimes I skip — forgive me. Remembering only the good has gotten easy. I still get angry for forgetting all the bad. I want all of you. It isn’t you I learned to let go. It is all me. Selfishly me. Do you know […]

Here is some advice from someone who has to read many applications. Don’t ask for recommendation letters from people who are self-absorbed, pompous narcissists. If their letter is about them and not you, it reflects badly upon you as a judge of character. It is perfectly ok to give people […]

Pediatric Mental Health Meets Media, Games and Virtual Reality (draft)   Position/Perspective Papers Ceranoglu, T. A. (2010). Star wars in psychotherapy: Video games in the office. Academic Psychiatry, 34(3), 233–6. doi:10.1176/appi.ap.34.3.233 Christakis, D. A. (2014). Interactive media use at younger than the age of 2 years. JAMA Pediatrics, 168(5), 399. […]

This is one of my favorite clips of Despicable Me 2. It illustrates several emotional systems, rapidly cycling in wonderful animation. It brings new meaning to the phrase “affect regulation”…

If it is peace that you want, it is trust that you need. Why is it so hard to be kind to the dog who just bit you? If it is justice that you want, it is rage that you will get. Why is it so hard to care for […]

When day comes too soon, far away seems the big blue, and the sun is igniting your soul. When night falls too fast, far away seems the milky way, and the moon is a burning hole. When void stagnates, and nothing is visible, and nothing is touching, those days and […]

It is August of 2013 and she is in Mexico. It is only one week into the vacation, yet every possible scenario, likely or unlikely, is already circling her mind like a bunch of vultures over a dying animal. This poor animal, a banal metaphor for her happiness, tried so […]

My grandmother would not approve of the title of my blog post. She has survived almost 94 years (give or take) believing in god and trying to find peace in this world through him. I grew up in a very religious environment that provided only superficial answers to dealing with […]

More living out of a suitcase for almost a month for much needed vacation to Greece and subsequently intense intellectual stimulation. You can find me at: … the International Workshop on New Computationally-Enabled Theoretical Models to Support Health Behavior Change and Maintenance, October 16-17, 2012, Brussels, Belgium | … […]

Next week, I will be traveling east for several days on what seems to be a bi-annual pilgrimage to several cities, meeting with collaborators and friendly faces. As I have stated before many times, I hate traveling, but I love my peeps so here’s to living out of a suitcase. […]

While searching for inspiration to move forward, sometimes it helps to look back…way back. Over dinner tonight, James and I talked about old civilizations. I remembered that I had an old tribute to a certain place of the past, a sacred place: my own huaca. Before game engines were available […]

It has been hard to think about myself turning 34 without thinking you not turning 37 two months later. You were there for at least 20 of my birthdays. Maybe more. And you loved cake and milk.